{"id":5409,"date":"2023-06-02T08:15:31","date_gmt":"2023-06-02T12:15:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/?p=5409"},"modified":"2023-06-02T08:15:34","modified_gmt":"2023-06-02T12:15:34","slug":"adhd-childs-messy-bedroom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/adhd-childs-messy-bedroom\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Remain Calm with Your ADHD Child\u2019s Messy Bedroom"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Do you feel easily triggered when your child&#8217;s bedroom is messy yet again? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do you lose your cool and say things you regret because you&#8217;re frustrated with the constant mess and disorganization? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Does your child have ADHD and you can&#8217;t figure out how to help him stay organized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You are not alone and I&#8217;m here to help! I can help you&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>identify the root cause of the chaos in your home<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>manage your mindset and what easily sets you off<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>and create an environment that supports the life-changing habits you desperately long for.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Today I&#8217;m sharing how you can remain calm when your ADHD child&#8217;s bedroom is a mess. Take a deep breath! You&#8217;ve got this!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-683x1024.png\" alt=\"infographic with black and white background for the blog post &quot;How to Remain Calm in Your Child's Messy Bedroom&quot;\" class=\"wp-image-5495\" width=\"512\" height=\"768\" srcset=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-683x1024.png 683w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-500x750.png 500w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-800x1200.png 800w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1.png 1000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\"><strong>Listen to the Podcast<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"102 \\\\ How To Remain Calm with Your ADHD Child\u2019s Messy Bedroom\" allowtransparency=\"true\" height=\"150\" width=\"100%\" style=\"border: none; min-width: min(100%, 430px);\" scrolling=\"no\" data-name=\"pb-iframe-player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.podbean.com\/player-v2\/?i=ubuqc-13bc62d-pb&#038;from=pb6admin&#038;share=1&#038;download=1&#038;rtl=0&#038;fonts=Arial&#038;skin=f6f6f6&#038;font-color=auto&#038;logo_link=episode_page&#038;btn-skin=1b1b1b\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\">This post may contain affiliate links in which case I earn a commission. You can read my full disclosure policy <a href=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/disclaimer-disclosure\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Before we dive into the five tips for staying calm in your ADHD child&#8217;s messy bedroom, I want to share some fundamental ideas to help you shift your mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Recognize that Your Child is Not Doing This to You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s important to remember that your child&#8217;s disorganization is not a personal attack on you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Their messy bedroom is not meant to make you feel overwhelmed or frustrated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Try to separate your emotions from the situation and view it objectively. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Understand that your child&#8217;s actions are not intentional, and they are not trying to spite you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By recognizing this, you can approach the issue with a calmer mindset and focus on finding solutions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Be the Calm for Your Child Amidst the Chaos<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When faced with your child&#8217;s messy bedroom, resist the temptation to join them in the chaos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your child needs you to be a steady pillar of strength. Instead of getting emotionally triggered, strive to remain calm and composed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By doing so, you create a safe space for your child to seek solace and support. Remember, emotions escalate when both you and your child are chaotic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By staying calm, you can help defuse tense situations and maintain a positive parent-child relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Avoid Blaming or Belittling<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Blaming or belittling your child for their organizational struggles is counterproductive and damaging to their self-esteem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Negative approaches breed negativity, while positive approaches foster positive change. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of blaming or shaming, try to understand that organizing skills are developed over time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your child may not have had the opportunity to learn effective organizing techniques or may have too many belongings to manage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Focus on encouraging and guiding them rather than criticizing or putting them down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Consider Your Child&#8217;s Capacity<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Just like adults, children have limits to what they can handle and manage efficiently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you struggle as an adult to keep your house tidy, imagine how difficult it is for your child who is still developing organizing skills. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Avoid overwhelming them with excessive belongings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Help them learn to manage a smaller amount of items before gradually earning more as they become more proficient in organization. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By teaching them these skills, you are setting them up for success in managing their spaces throughout their lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>MOM TIP: Filter everything that comes into your home for your child through the lense of, &#8220;What is within his capacity to manage?&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom-1024x768.png\" alt=\"featured image of the blog post &quot;How to Remain Calm in Your Child's Messy Bedroom&quot;, image of a boy reading on his bed\" class=\"wp-image-5497\" width=\"768\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom-1024x768.png 1024w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom-768x576.png 768w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom-1536x1152.png 1536w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom-500x375.png 500w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom-800x600.png 800w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom-1280x960.png 1280w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/adhd-child-messy-bedroom.png 1600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-large-font-size\">5 Tips to Stay Calm with Your Adhd Child&#8217;s Messy Bedroom<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Now that we&#8217;ve discussed some fundamental principles, here are a few tips to help you establish a sense of calm within yourself and your child&#8217;s messy bedroom:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-6-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>1. Take Control of What You Can<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Start by focusing on what you can control: your own spaces. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Begin the journey toward a calmer environment by decluttering, organizing, and systemizing your own areas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Recognize your own capacity and ensure that your home and daily tasks align with what you can handle. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>By taking control of your own surroundings, you&#8217;ll feel more empowered to guide your child toward a tidier space.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-6-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>2. Envision Calm Communication<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When you&#8217;re in a state of calm, envision how you will communicate with your child about their messy bedroom. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Plan the words you will use and imagine yourself maintaining a composed and empathetic demeanor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remind yourself that you need to be a steady pillar of strength for your child, providing support and guidance without judgment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By setting a positive example through your communication, you can encourage your child to adopt better organizational habits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-6-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>3. Establish Routines and Consistency<\/strong> <\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Routines and consistency are particularly beneficial for children with ADHD. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Create simple routines that can be easily followed and consider habit stacking\u2014attaching new habits to existing tasks. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, when your child wakes up, they can make it a habit to pull the covers up to the pillow. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Similarly, after finishing a meal, they can rinse their plate and put it in the dishwasher. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By establishing consistent routines, you provide structure and help your child develop better organizational skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-6-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>4. Prioritize Self-Care<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Taking care of yourself is essential when dealing with a messy bedroom situation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ensure you get enough rest, engage in regular exercise, and eat nutritious foods to maintain your energy and mental well-being. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Avoid becoming hungry or fatigued, as it can make you more susceptible to frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By prioritizing self-care, you&#8217;ll be better equipped to handle challenging moments and remain calm when addressing your child&#8217;s messy bedroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-6-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>5. Find Joy in Time with Your Child<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember to have fun with your child on a regular basis. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Engaging in enjoyable activities together strengthens your bond and creates a positive atmosphere at home. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you give yourself time to have fun with your child, you&#8217;re more likely to remain calm amidst their messy chaos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Enjoying shared experiences also provides an opportunity to teach your child about organization in a lighthearted and engaging way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>MOM TIP: Work on your relationship as it&#8217;s the foundation for any behavioral training with your child.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">PIN THIS to read again \u2193<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-683x1024.png\" alt=\"infographic listing 5 ways to stay calm for the blog post &quot;How to Remain Calm in Your Child's Messy Bedroom&quot;\" class=\"wp-image-5496\" width=\"512\" height=\"768\" srcset=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-683x1024.png 683w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-500x750.png 500w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-800x1200.png 800w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2.png 1000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-6-color has-text-color has-large-font-size\"><strong>I&#8217;d love to hear from you!<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Have you found yourself triggered by your ADHD child&#8217;s messy bedroom? Which one of these tips do you think will be the most helpful? Which one is the easiest that you can apply today?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/love-lisa-1024x652.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-4238\" width=\"168\" height=\"106\" srcset=\"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/love-lisa-1024x652.png 1024w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/love-lisa-300x191.png 300w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/love-lisa-768x489.png 768w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/love-lisa-500x318.png 500w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/love-lisa-800x509.png 800w, https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/love-lisa.png 1100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 168px) 100vw, 168px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you feel easily triggered when your child&#8217;s bedroom is messy yet again? 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