{"id":5242,"date":"2023-04-11T23:58:56","date_gmt":"2023-04-12T03:58:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/?p=5242"},"modified":"2023-04-12T00:01:28","modified_gmt":"2023-04-12T04:01:28","slug":"how-to-stay-calm-when-today-doesnt-go-as-planned","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/habitsandhome.com\/how-to-stay-calm-when-today-doesnt-go-as-planned\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stay Calm When Today Doesn’t Go As Planned"},"content":{"rendered":"
But then tomorrow comes and you sleep past your alarm clock, the kids are fighting with each other or someone is calling your name just as you begin focusing on every. single. task.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That was me this morning! \ud83e\udd2a<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I had grand plans today because I was sick three days last week with a cold. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I was tired of laying around and I was ready to feel productive around my house and in my business again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Resting and taking some time off is nice but after awhile I’m ready to get back to being productive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Unfortunately, the morning didn’t go as perfectly as I had planned, and I had to muster up\u00a0a LOT of self-control<\/strong>\u00a0not to join in the chaos that was building around me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I wish I could say I’ve always lived from a state of calm and self-control but I’ve had to work really hard at this skill.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I used to quickly explode on my kids when it’s too noisy or the house is a mess. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Even now I’m not perfect all of the time and I can easily fall back into that state of stress when I don’t have a supportive framework in place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Like I mentioned to stay calm in the chaos I need a framework of support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When things were starting to get a little crazy, I took a deep breath and referred back to my calendar and tasks I had laid out the day before, and I was able to keep my cool while I gently worked through each goal.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, some chores took longer than I had planned for and some chores even got pushed to another time-block or another day altogether, but I can honestly stay I feel good with the productivity I was able to achieve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I was still able to accomplish what was most important for the day because I had planned ahead of time long before any chaos had ensued.<\/p>\n\n\n\n THIS is why I do a weekend reset. <\/p>\n\n\n\n THIS is why planning and systems are so important\u00a0because chaos happens.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Some things we can’t control in our day, like me accidentally hitting \u201coff\u201d instead of \u201csnooze\u201d on my alarm this morning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, if we focus on what we\u00a0CAN<\/strong>\u00a0control, we will be more equipped to remain calm when chaos begins invading our space.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, what can we control?\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here are a few things that have helped me remain calm lately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I may not be able to control other people but I can control myself, and I can control the way I react and respond to people and situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Despite our attempts to control our husband, our children and the functionality of our home, we simply can’t control everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This truth may be especially hard for type-A personalities to accept because they have a greater need to feel in control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I have discovered that when I react aggressively in an effort to gain control I end up adding to the tension in the home instead of extinguishing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I was a public school teacher, there would be many times throughout the school day that the students would start talking while I was trying to talk to them. Or they got too loud and I need to get their attention and back on track.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of yelling above the noise, I would start speaking very quietly and within a couple of second the students would get quiet and give me their attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It worked like magic!<\/p>\n\n\n\n So try this in your home. When things are messy, loud and chaotic, get quiet. Whatever that looks like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It may mean going outside for a walk and inviting the kids to join you or you may opt for turning on some soft music.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Give it a try.<\/p>\n\n\n Each week I perform a simple weekend reset in my home to help me be better prepared for the week to come.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can read more about my three bare essentials in a Simple Weekend Reset for a Successful Week<\/a><\/span>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n My weekend reset maintains order and keeps our home clutter-free.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of letting my house get to the point of being a big mess, I tidy it often with a simple daily reset.<\/p>\n\n\n\nListen to the Podcast<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n\n\n
How I’ve learned to stay calm<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Real-life chaos in the home<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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My motivation to simplify and systemize<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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5 Things You Can Do to Remain Calm in the Chaos<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
1. I can control how I respond even when others invade me with their chaos.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Take a lesson from teachers.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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2. I can reset my home to be better prepared for the week to come.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n